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Thrush Bum Cream

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I’ve been on this breastfeeding journey a long time. Two and a half years with my latest kiddo. So, because I DO need to sleep from time to time, we planned on night weaning. We even put it on the prayer list at Bible study. The great night wean was supposed to start last weekend. Then, lo and behold, I end up with a blocked milk duct. The treatment? You guessed it- breastfeeding. So I ended up nursing from that breast even more than usual. Tieties bonanzas the whole weekend. Milk duct is now cleared up! Yayyy!

Aaaand then the toddler ended up with a yeast infection. It started out looking like a bum rash (weird, if you’re a cloth mom), but airing it out didn’t help, and it got worse. Then little bums started appearing. Thrush. Eish…

And, another cloth mom thing, we can’t really apply those sticky yucky salves the doctors normally give without a nappy liner, otherwise it’s a fight to the death to get the gunk of your nappies. Too much effort for me.

Anyhooo… So I turned to my amazing tribe for some advice. They advised probiotics (applied topically), Tea Tree and Lavender (mine was finished) Essential Oil and Coconut Oil. Then I made this salve. And it works like a charm!

Thrush Bum Cream
3 Tablespoons Coconut Oil
1 Capsule of Acidophilus (amazing probiotic)
5 drops Tea Tree EO (don’t apply undiluted-it burns!)

Melt the oil, and combine all the ingredients. Apply with every nappy change until the rash clears up. If possible, also boost with an oral probiotic (you can pour a capsule of Acidophilus over food or mix it into yoghurt). Someone also advised a piece of SCOBY inside the nappy, on the rash, but the baby wasn’t game for that idea)

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Being the Perfect Parent

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Being the perfect parent in today’s day and age is pretty much impossible.

 

You need to feed your kids perfectly balanced meals, three times a day, every day, with healthy snacks in between.

In the perfect parent’s world there is no such thing as a ‘picky eater’. In this parent’s world, the kids eat everything- fruits, veg, fish, organ meats and dairy.

No sweets, artificial anything or GMOs.

 
These kids are well-behaved and perfectly adapted socially.

They speak only when spoken to and polite. They know their place.

They don’t run around, are not loud, and can carry on a conversation with a grown-up in a logical manner.

They listen when spoken to, and do not backchat their parents. Ever.
They also play well with others- sharing their toys and always playing nicely with their friends.

They do not say embarrassing things in front of others (like “Mom, but you haven’t shaved in two weeks” and “Daddy is wearing his holey underwear”!)

 
The perfect parent’s children are always clean.

No mud, dirt or poo stain anywhere.

Perfectly white and starched shirts on their toddler to make him look just like his daddy! The perfect Pinterest child.

These kids have no desire to get dirty or get hurt by running and possibly falling.

They have perfectly combed hair with trendy hairstyles for the boys and little curly pigtails for the girls. At all times.

Their little shoes are gleaming, perfectly polished, and never scuffed. They never run around barefoot.

 
The perfect parent teaches their kids about using technology responsibly. The kids have their own tablets and smartphones. They need them. Otherwise they will be singled out as ‘odd’ and that makes for an abusive parent.

The perfect child never turns into a little brain-dead iphone zombie.

Everything is practiced in moderation.

 
The perfect parent enforces discipline with a firm, yet gentle heart.

This parent runs the home like a Democracy.

Everyone has a say in the house rules, and everyone sticks to their promises. Everyone does their chores, on time and without complaining.

The children never ‘run wild’.

Their rooms are always neat and clean.

Homework done on time.

School bags packed and unpacked without prompting.

Kiddo goes to school with a beautifully packed Bento lunchbox full of wholesome goodness every day and eats everything himself (and never even considers trading his banana for Johnny’s Simbas)

 
This is the Pinterest child. The perfect child. With the perfect parents. THIS is what we try and live up to.

 

Can I tell you a secret?

 

It’s NOT HAPPENING, honey.

 

Normal people, like you and me, are NOT perfect. Hell, we shouldn’t try to be!

Life is messy. And that’s part of the fun!

 

Children need to LIVE!

Experience life.

Make mistakes, get hurt, get up again and run back faster and stronger.

They need to learn from their mistakes.

They should never ever be raised in a little bubble of perfection because they WILL NOT survive the real world!

 

This is why tweens commit suicide, why they think they’re not enough. Not good enough. Not perfect enough.

Kids nowadays don’t realize that they’re perfectly imperfect. That it’s normal. That they should embrace who they are on a basic level. They are enough. And it’s time for us, as society, to tell them that.

 

I’m the un-Pinterest Mom.

 

We live according to the 80/20 rule.

80% good stuff. 20% cheating.

To me, that means doing my absolute best to give my kids healthy, hearty, good stuff most of the time. But if they eat a vienna or cupcake at a birthday party it WON’T kill them!

I try and be a gentle parent, but at times talking nicely and reasoning it out DOESN’T work (eg. Fingers and plugs and running in front of a car). Then my kids get a smack. I don’t beat them, but they don’t run the house.
My kids are loud, opinionated and dirty.

They get paint and mud in their hair, and sometimes go a day or two without brushing it.

They like to run, climb, scream, laugh uncontrollably and fight like mortal enemies.

They sulk and backchat and then bring me wildflowers.

They don’t always share.

I’ve also been known to shove them in front of the tablet or PC for half an hour of peace and quiet.
They are picky. Oh my goodness, they are sooooo picky. Snippie can survive on meat and starch alone (thank goodness for this amazing multivitamin) and we’re slowly getting her onto more fruit and veg. The toddler eats most things, but is still a boobie baby, so goes on eating strikes from time to time that drive us NUTS (again, thank goodness for a liquid multivitamin and protein shake!).

My kids are disrespectful.

Yeah, I’ve raised what some might call a bratty tween. She shrugs and walks off when spoken to, she backchats. Her room is a mess most of the time.

But she also lights up my life. Makes me laugh. Makes me see the funny, quirky, magical things in the everyday.

 

My house is a mess at times.

I don’t have breakables out.

I don’t have coffee table books and matching magazine racks.

My coffee table IS the nature find box.

My house gets swept and mopped (mostly) daily because we have a house bunny. (side note: house bunnies are messsssssy, and live for 12-13 years. Consider it carefully before getting one! They’re a blessing, but a handful).

Okay, back on topic.

I wear mostly dark, earthy tones and patterned clothes. Not coz I’m trendy. They hide stains best. Especially milk and pee stains!

My advice is this:

Don’t try to be perfect. Don’t try to ‘fit in’. And PLEASE don’t try to force your beautifully unique child into that ‘socially acceptable’ box.

See, I’m human. I’m magnificently, abnormally, wild and free: me.
And, finally, I’m okay with that.

Are you?

 

 

 

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Whitening Toothpaste

Whitening Toothpaste Recipe:

  • 2 T Bentonite Clay
  • Pinch Salt
  • 1 T Liquid Coconut Oil
  • 1 t Activated Charcoal
  • Pinch Ground Cloves
  • Water to form a paste

      Combine all and store at room temperature. You can add stevia to taste and I like adding crushed, dried mint too!

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    Our Daily Routine

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    I actually REALLY love the flow of our days as of late! It feels like everything’s ‘clicked’, and our days are pretty easy and laid-back. I get stuff done (I NEED to feel productive!) and there is also enough time to relax. This is what our days look like (mostly):

    05:00 Get up, get dressed, make java, drop hubby off at work.
    06:00 Get kiddos dressed, fed, hair and teeth brushed and ready for the day.
    07:00 School starts: Bible, Prayer, Memory Work, Songs, French, Math, Grammar, Dictation and the Loop for the day (Science, Art, History or Geography)
    11:00 School finished: time for playdates, outings, Nature Walks, chilling, free reads, and errands.
    15:00 Daddy gets picked up (and any errands that still need running get seen to)
    16:00 Family chill time
    17:00 We (usually daddy!) start supper
    18:00 Suppertime
    19:30- 21:00 Bedtime for kiddos
    21:00-22:00 Parents bedtime!

     

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    A new journey

    So, I’m super excited!

    I just signed up for a digital storytelling course and can’t wait to see what it brings!

    I find that I function best when learning, and am always looking for new ways to stretch myself. I believe this course will do that, while also helping me prepare for the amazing journey happening in 2018 (I’m not going to give away toooooo much info right now, but watch this space to keep updated!)

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    Becoming The Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 6

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    I’m covering insights 9 and 10 today:

    “She spins her own thread and weaves her own cloth.”

    And “She is generous to the poor and needy.”

     

    Now, just to make this clear: I don’t spin and weave, and don’t intend on starting! Times have changed, and we can buy material, thread and ready-spun wool. This piece speaks to me of quality. She ensures that the things she used to make things for her family are of a high quality. That the materials are durable, strong and something she is proud of using!

     

    She’s also loving and kind, and looks after those that are less fortunate. She doesn’t just give money to a charity and ticks it off as her good deed for the day, put is THERE, present in the act of giving. She is not selfish with her time, belongings or money. Now, I don’t just give money out to every beggar I meet. I pray for godly guidance and discernment. I bless whomever God leads me to bless. I also cherish my time. My time is precious, and only gets spent on those that colour and build my life. I don’t waste my time on drains, hopeless people or constantly negative people. But I help where I can, when I can, with whatever I can.

    How do you bless others?

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    Becoming The Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 5

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    After a bit of a break, I’m delving into Proverbs 31 again. Yay! I must say it’s such a huge blessing every time I read it. I get new insights every single time!

     

    Now, insight no. 8 speaks very dearly to my heart. “She knows the value of everything she makes, and works late into the night”. This is an absolute WAHM, right?!

     

    In the past, when sewing for profit, and later with my Cottage School, I really under-valued myself. I didn’t charge what I was worth, but what I THOUGHT I was worth, and that was wayyyyy too low… You need to work out how much your time is worth, how much your supplies cost and your profit, and charge THAT. You are worth it. You are putting in the time. You have worked so hard to provide for your family. Charge what you are worth (assuming you are delivering on quality 😉 )

     

    I also tend to do a lot of work once the kiddos are in bed. Not necessarily work work, but cleaning the house, prepping school work, setting up my schedule and to-do lists, prepping breakfast and lunches (if necessary). It just makes life so much easier and more relaxed in the mornings!

     

    And I’ve found that when we wake up gently, it sets a truly beautiful tone for the whole day.

     

    I also find that I tend to chat to God more when doing these things at night, which blesses my soul tremendously!

     

    Do you under-charge for your products or services? What should you change in order to live up to your true worth?

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    Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 4

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    Last time, we focused a lot on food. That theme now continues, along with some insights on her work situation.

    Now, a lot of ladies feel that Proverbs 31 is very clear on the fact that this woman worked outside the home. Others feel very strongly that she couldn’t have done all the other things if she did work outside the home.

    I fall somewhere in the middle. I am a WAHM (work-at-home-mom) that sometimes works outside the house. I do the bulk of my work from my house, but I do go out to see clients and leave my kiddos at home with hubby or granny when I do that. Other times I book playdates/business meetings and take them with.

    Onto the next insight: ‘She surveys and buys land, and plants a vineyard with the money she earned.’ She didn’t use hubby’s hard earned money to buy the vineyard. She used HER money. (Don’t get me wrong: I don’t believe in HIS or MY money, it’s OUR money since we both work to finance our lives TOGETHER) What I do mean is that she uses/invests money she worked for. Money she did something to ear. Now, this could also mean a stay-at-home mom spending her ‘allowance’ from her husband wisely. Remember, she also works. She looks after the kids, cleans, irons, cooks, etc. That’s not to be taken for granted.

    What I also get from this is the fact that she uses her money to make MORE money (investing). She plants a vineyard so she can reap a harvest and sow more in the next season. She thinks ahead so she can provide for times to come.

    ‘She surveys and buys land’ says to me that she looks at things properly. She’s not hasty when investing, but makes sure that she knows exactly what she’s letting herself in for. She doesn’t get ‘scammed’, but looks at opportunities with wisdom and then makes an informed decision.

    This sixth insight really speaks to me about wisely investing money. Not spending money unnecessarily, but spending it on things that would create residual income in times to come.

    What did you get from this piece?

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    Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 3

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    In Part 1 we did a basic overview of the verse, and in Part 2 we covered points 1 and 2.

     

    Now, we continue delving into what it means to be a ‘Proverbs 31 Woman’.

     

    The third insight: ’She keeps herself busy: making wool and linen cloth.’ speaks to me about laziness. She is industrious, and helps to produce for the family. She doesn’t loaf around, doing nothing, but is always productively busy (not to be confused with worldly busyness of running around, having a loooooong to-do list and not really getting much of substance done). I don’t feel like I need to go out and make my own wool and cloth, since those are easily bought. But I do believe I should appreciate where things come from and try and buy (and where possible, make) the best we can afford for my family (which definitely includes these supplements, but that’s a post for another day 😉 )

     

    ‘She brings food from afar (like merchant ships)’, the fourth insight, tells me that she sometimes goes out of her way to give them this. This could mean going to markets, driving to a different store, buying from different places or even producing that food herself (‘going out of her way’ in a more indirect sense by growing it herself).

     

    ‘She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and tell her servants what to do’, the fifth insight, tells me, once again, that she is not lazy. She gets up early, and doesn’t make a habit of ‘sleeping in’. Look, I love a Saturday morning sleep-in as much as the next person (well, with a toddler that means to ‘sleep’ till 05:00 and try to sleep through another 2 hours of Jake and the Neverland Pirates!) but I don’t do that every day. I find that when I start my day at 06:00, I get a lot more done. I’m in a better head-space when I wake in the calm of early-morning darkness. It gives me a slower beginning to the day, setting a less frantic mood for the rest of the day. I also think the ‘getting up before daylight to prepare food’ speaks more of a way of cooking in today’s time: turning back to slow food, ferments, sourdoughs and things that need soaking. Getting those things going early sets you up for success later. Feeding the sourdough starter early in the morning, for example, ensures that you can bake bread in the early afternoon. Soaking your grains early will ensure that they’re ready to cook for supper. Getting the crockpot going early means tender meat for supper. See what I mean? I really don’t mean grow, harvest and grind your own grain (well, unless you really want to!). To me, this just means being more intentional with my food preparation (which I really need to be, because I don’t naturally think about these things! Thank God for my husband!)

    The piece about ‘telling her servants what to do’, to me, means delegating certain things. I like having things done my way. But I’ve had to accept that I simply can’t do everything myself. My hubby cooks most nights (thank goodness!), my eldest folds her own washing and helps around the house (the floors are usually not perfectly mopped, but at least it’s done!) and even the toddler ‘helps’ around the house by cleaning spills and ‘helping’ mommy ‘fold’ the laundry! It’s not easy, but I’ve learnt to let go. Harmony in the house is worth far more to me than perfection, and the best way to achieve this is by working together as a team to ensure an efficiently running household.

    How do you work together as a family to ensure that things run smoothly?

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    Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman: Part 2

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    In Part 1, I broke down the main points (as I perceived them) while studying the second part of Proverbs 31- The Virtuous Wife.

    Now, we’ll start delving deeper into her character, point by point.

    The first insight I got was “Her husband puts his confidence in her, therefore he will never be poor”.

    To me, this means that she is trustworthy. Her husband can fully trust her with all matters- finances, emotions (be totally honest with her without fear of her later using it against him or seeing him as ‘weak’). It also speaks to me of her loyalty to him (not letting her eyes wader and keeping her ‘options open’, but to be totally and completely devoted to him, and him alone). She’s a faithful wife that will not let him down, but is dependable in all she commits herself to. Because of her thrift and industry, she adds to his wealth instead of taking away from it. She keeps a tight budget, and does not spend money on unnecessary things.

    The second insight, “She does him good and never harm”, says to me that she is always on his side. They fight against worldly obstacles TOGETHER instead of fighting about it with each other. It’s us vs. the world, not us against each other. She always builds him up, and does not focus on his weaknesses. ‘Harm’, to me, speaks of debt. She does not put them into financial difficulty by spending money they don’t have on frivolous shopping sprees, but works with what they have to make the best financial decisions. She also doesn’t bad-mouth him to others, thereby diminishing his standing with his peers.

    Just to clarify: I am VERY far from this woman, but feel led by God to move closer to her personality-wise. This is what I aspire to, not what I am 😉

    Join me next time as we expand on a few more insights!