Becoming The Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 6

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I’m covering insights 9 and 10 today:

“She spins her own thread and weaves her own cloth.”

And “She is generous to the poor and needy.”


Now, just to make this clear: I don’t spin and weave, and don’t intend on starting! Times have changed, and we can buy material, thread and ready-spun wool. This piece speaks to me of quality. She ensures that the things she used to make things for her family are of a high quality. That the materials are durable, strong and something she is proud of using!


She’s also loving and kind, and looks after those that are less fortunate. She doesn’t just give money to a charity and ticks it off as her good deed for the day, put is THERE, present in the act of giving. She is not selfish with her time, belongings or money. Now, I don’t just give money out to every beggar I meet. I pray for godly guidance and discernment. I bless whomever God leads me to bless. I also cherish my time. My time is precious, and only gets spent on those that colour and build my life. I don’t waste my time on drains, hopeless people or constantly negative people. But I help where I can, when I can, with whatever I can.

How do you bless others?


Becoming The Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 5

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After a bit of a break, I’m delving into Proverbs 31 again. Yay! I must say it’s such a huge blessing every time I read it. I get new insights every single time!


Now, insight no. 8 speaks very dearly to my heart. “She knows the value of everything she makes, and works late into the night”. This is an absolute WAHM, right?!


In the past, when sewing for profit, and later with my Cottage School, I really under-valued myself. I didn’t charge what I was worth, but what I THOUGHT I was worth, and that was wayyyyy too low… You need to work out how much your time is worth, how much your supplies cost and your profit, and charge THAT. You are worth it. You are putting in the time. You have worked so hard to provide for your family. Charge what you are worth (assuming you are delivering on quality 😉 )


I also tend to do a lot of work once the kiddos are in bed. Not necessarily work work, but cleaning the house, prepping school work, setting up my schedule and to-do lists, prepping breakfast and lunches (if necessary). It just makes life so much easier and more relaxed in the mornings!


And I’ve found that when we wake up gently, it sets a truly beautiful tone for the whole day.


I also find that I tend to chat to God more when doing these things at night, which blesses my soul tremendously!


Do you under-charge for your products or services? What should you change in order to live up to your true worth?

Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 4

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Last time, we focused a lot on food. That theme now continues, along with some insights on her work situation.

Now, a lot of ladies feel that Proverbs 31 is very clear on the fact that this woman worked outside the home. Others feel very strongly that she couldn’t have done all the other things if she did work outside the home.

I fall somewhere in the middle. I am a WAHM (work-at-home-mom) that sometimes works outside the house. I do the bulk of my work from my house, but I do go out to see clients and leave my kiddos at home with hubby or granny when I do that. Other times I book playdates/business meetings and take them with.

Onto the next insight: ‘She surveys and buys land, and plants a vineyard with the money she earned.’ She didn’t use hubby’s hard earned money to buy the vineyard. She used HER money. (Don’t get me wrong: I don’t believe in HIS or MY money, it’s OUR money since we both work to finance our lives TOGETHER) What I do mean is that she uses/invests money she worked for. Money she did something to ear. Now, this could also mean a stay-at-home mom spending her ‘allowance’ from her husband wisely. Remember, she also works. She looks after the kids, cleans, irons, cooks, etc. That’s not to be taken for granted.

What I also get from this is the fact that she uses her money to make MORE money (investing). She plants a vineyard so she can reap a harvest and sow more in the next season. She thinks ahead so she can provide for times to come.

‘She surveys and buys land’ says to me that she looks at things properly. She’s not hasty when investing, but makes sure that she knows exactly what she’s letting herself in for. She doesn’t get ‘scammed’, but looks at opportunities with wisdom and then makes an informed decision.

This sixth insight really speaks to me about wisely investing money. Not spending money unnecessarily, but spending it on things that would create residual income in times to come.

What did you get from this piece?

Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman- Part 3

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In Part 1 we did a basic overview of the verse, and in Part 2 we covered points 1 and 2.


Now, we continue delving into what it means to be a ‘Proverbs 31 Woman’.


The third insight: ’She keeps herself busy: making wool and linen cloth.’ speaks to me about laziness. She is industrious, and helps to produce for the family. She doesn’t loaf around, doing nothing, but is always productively busy (not to be confused with worldly busyness of running around, having a loooooong to-do list and not really getting much of substance done). I don’t feel like I need to go out and make my own wool and cloth, since those are easily bought. But I do believe I should appreciate where things come from and try and buy (and where possible, make) the best we can afford for my family (which definitely includes these supplements, but that’s a post for another day 😉 )


‘She brings food from afar (like merchant ships)’, the fourth insight, tells me that she sometimes goes out of her way to give them this. This could mean going to markets, driving to a different store, buying from different places or even producing that food herself (‘going out of her way’ in a more indirect sense by growing it herself).


‘She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and tell her servants what to do’, the fifth insight, tells me, once again, that she is not lazy. She gets up early, and doesn’t make a habit of ‘sleeping in’. Look, I love a Saturday morning sleep-in as much as the next person (well, with a toddler that means to ‘sleep’ till 05:00 and try to sleep through another 2 hours of Jake and the Neverland Pirates!) but I don’t do that every day. I find that when I start my day at 06:00, I get a lot more done. I’m in a better head-space when I wake in the calm of early-morning darkness. It gives me a slower beginning to the day, setting a less frantic mood for the rest of the day. I also think the ‘getting up before daylight to prepare food’ speaks more of a way of cooking in today’s time: turning back to slow food, ferments, sourdoughs and things that need soaking. Getting those things going early sets you up for success later. Feeding the sourdough starter early in the morning, for example, ensures that you can bake bread in the early afternoon. Soaking your grains early will ensure that they’re ready to cook for supper. Getting the crockpot going early means tender meat for supper. See what I mean? I really don’t mean grow, harvest and grind your own grain (well, unless you really want to!). To me, this just means being more intentional with my food preparation (which I really need to be, because I don’t naturally think about these things! Thank God for my husband!)

The piece about ‘telling her servants what to do’, to me, means delegating certain things. I like having things done my way. But I’ve had to accept that I simply can’t do everything myself. My hubby cooks most nights (thank goodness!), my eldest folds her own washing and helps around the house (the floors are usually not perfectly mopped, but at least it’s done!) and even the toddler ‘helps’ around the house by cleaning spills and ‘helping’ mommy ‘fold’ the laundry! It’s not easy, but I’ve learnt to let go. Harmony in the house is worth far more to me than perfection, and the best way to achieve this is by working together as a team to ensure an efficiently running household.

How do you work together as a family to ensure that things run smoothly?