Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman: Part 2

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In Part 1, I broke down the main points (as I perceived them) while studying the second part of Proverbs 31- The Virtuous Wife.

Now, we’ll start delving deeper into her character, point by point.

The first insight I got was “Her husband puts his confidence in her, therefore he will never be poor”.

To me, this means that she is trustworthy. Her husband can fully trust her with all matters- finances, emotions (be totally honest with her without fear of her later using it against him or seeing him as ‘weak’). It also speaks to me of her loyalty to him (not letting her eyes wader and keeping her ‘options open’, but to be totally and completely devoted to him, and him alone). She’s a faithful wife that will not let him down, but is dependable in all she commits herself to. Because of her thrift and industry, she adds to his wealth instead of taking away from it. She keeps a tight budget, and does not spend money on unnecessary things.

The second insight, “She does him good and never harm”, says to me that she is always on his side. They fight against worldly obstacles TOGETHER instead of fighting about it with each other. It’s us vs. the world, not us against each other. She always builds him up, and does not focus on his weaknesses. ‘Harm’, to me, speaks of debt. She does not put them into financial difficulty by spending money they don’t have on frivolous shopping sprees, but works with what they have to make the best financial decisions. She also doesn’t bad-mouth him to others, thereby diminishing his standing with his peers.

Just to clarify: I am VERY far from this woman, but feel led by God to move closer to her personality-wise. This is what I aspire to, not what I am 😉

Join me next time as we expand on a few more insights!


Becoming the Proverbs 31 Woman: Part 1

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Lately, I’ve become greatly intrigued by the ‘Proverbs 31 woman’. Who is she, how on earth did she do it and can I also do it?

She surely looks ‘perfect’, like the ultimate superwoman!

And with God everything is possible, right? So what’s stopping me from also walking in her footsteps? With the grace of God, it must be possible!

So I took the second part of Proverbs 31- The Virtuous Wife- and broke it down into what I believe to be the main points (that I personally got as I studied the piece. I used the Good News translation):

*Her husband puts confidence in her, and therefore will never be poor.

*She does him only good and never harm.

*She keeps herself busy, making wool and linen cloth.

*She brings food from afar, like merchant-ships do.

*She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and tell her servants what to do.

* She surveys and buys land, and plants a vineyard with the money she has earned.

*She’s a hard worker-strong and industrious.

*She knows the value of everything she makes and works late into the night.

*She spins her own thread and weaves her own cloth.

*She is generous to the poor and needy.

*She makes bedspreads and wears clothes of fine purple (and red) linen.

*Her husband is well-known and is one of the leading citizens.

*She makes clothes and belts and sells these to merchants.

*She’s strong and respected, and not afraid of the future.

*She speaks with gentle wisdom.

*She’s always busy and looks after her family’s needs.

*Her children show their appreciation and her husband praises her.

*She honours the Lord.

*Credit and respect are given to her without her demanding it. Her works speak for themselves.


I really look forward to delving deeper into what it means to be ‘that’ woman over the coming weeks, and hope you will join me on this journey of discovery!

Homeschooling and Friends

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When we started homeschooling, the most common question I got was:”But what about friends?”

Let me make this clear: most homeschoolers are NOT unsocialized.

Yes, it takes a bit more effort from the parent’s side to help them meet up with others, do extra-murals, get ‘out ther’. But isn’t that kind of the whole reason WHY you started homeschooling in the first place? To be more involved in your child’s life?

The thing I’ve found regarding my daughter’s friends since we’ve started homeschooling, is this: She has less, but better quality, friends.

What I mean by this is that she doesn’t have as many so-called friends to play with on a regular basis, but she also doesn’t have as much drama as she used to. No ‘you can’t be my friend’ every second day, accompanied by snot and tears. Oh no… Now she has friends she likes being around, and that actually make time to be around her. She has friends that have a lot more in common with her, and that share her values and beliefs. She has friends she truly care about her, and whom she truly cares about in return. She’s built deep, long-lasting friendships instead of superficial ‘friendships’ that won’t survive the first storm life throws at them. They’re a close-knit group, which gives them security. They also ‘grow up’ with the same group of friends, hopefully leading to lifelong friendships!

She’s made friends overseas (her best friend is moving to the Netherlands and she has a few penpals in the US) which has broadened her horizons considerably. She now has a much wider frame of reference, and that has positively impacted the way she perceives the world. This also opens up new opportunities for her in the future. She plans on travelling the world. What a better way to do that than by visiting all your friends!

One of the things I like most is the fact that I have more control over whom she associates with. I get to know her friends’ parents (making new friends myself in the process!). I find the families share many of our values, there is less peer pressure and independent thoughts are encouraged and the kids get along well. We also get to pick up and address issues earlier and have more of an idea of what the kids talk about/do.

Situations vary, but this has been our personal experience.

Yes, my daughter has less friends.

She also has lifelong friends.

And for that I’m grateful!

Homeschool Holidays

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Our holidays fall over the same times as those of the normal schools in the area. We arranged our school year in this way for a few reasons.

It allows my kiddos to play with their friends that still go to normal schools. This is normally the only times we can arrange these get-togethers, as their public school friends are normally too busy for play dates during the term (homework is the main reason). I feel it’s VERY important for my kiddos to nurture those relationships and not to lose good friends because school terms interfere too much with their friendships… It also fives my kids a sense of normality- they don’t get asked ‘So, why aren’t you in school’ when we go to the mall in the day, and they don’t feel like outcasts!

Why do we even bother with holidays? It gives the kids a sense of ‘taking a break’. They basically still do the same things! They take nature walks, read books and poetry, we read Bible and pray, they watch documentaries. But because it’s during ‘holidays’ it doesn’t feel like work! They really do love school so much!

It also gives them a bit of  a change of pace, leaving them refreshed and ready for exams when the new term starts (we work on 3 ‘school’ terms, so our exams fall a little after the start of the new ‘term’ as we take 4 holidays a year, as per the public school system)

It also gives me a much needed break from the everyday routine, allowing me to let the kids ‘run wild’ and do all kinds of fun stuff while I catch up on some planning, relax with a good book, and have some ‘me time’ 😉

How to make a Ginger Bug

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Ginger Bug


1 Tablespoon fresh, grated ginger

1 Tablespoon sugar

1 cup water


  1. Mix all three ingredients together in a wide mouthed jar (I use an old mayonnaise bottle!) and cover with a piece of muslin and elastic band.
  2. Leave to ferment at room temperature for 4-6 days, ‘feeding’ it every day with a tablespoon of ginger and a tablespoon of sugar. Mix it well after each addition and cover again.
  3. Once it’s bubbly and yeasty-smelling, it’s ready to use. You can use your ‘bug’ as a starter for a great many ferments.
  4. Store in the fridge when not in use. To revive it, feed it and leave to stand for a day.

How to make Ginger Beer

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Ginger Beer with Ginger Bug

A thumb-size knob of fresh ginger

2 liter water

Half a cup sugar

3 Tablespoons sieved Ginger Bug


  1. In a pot, boil the water and knob of ginger for half an hour. Strain and add the sugar. Allow to cool to room temperature.
  2. Add the ginger bug to the mixture.
  3. Cover the mouth of the bottle with a piece of muslin and a rubber band.
  4. Leave to ferment at room temperature till actively bubbling (1-3 days)
  5. Transfer to sterilized bottles and seal (we always drink ours fresh as it never lasts long in our house!) It’s optimal when stored for another 4 days at room temperature and then moved to the fridge. It keeps for several months in the fridge.


Ginger Beer with Yeast

A thumb-sized knob of fresh ginger

1 cup sugar

1.5 Tablespoons lemon juice

A quarter teaspoon dry yeast

2 liter water


  1. Grate the ginger and squeeze out the juice (put in a muslin cloth and squeeze). Add juice to a bottle.(A plastic bottle is preferable, as glass bottles could explode quite easily!)
  2. Add sugar, lemon juice, yeast and a pinch salt.
  3. Fill with water, leaving a little space on top. Close and shake till the sugar dissolves.
  4. Leave to stand at room temperature for 2 to 3 days.
  5. Chill and drink.(It keeps for 1 week in the fridge)